It’s Saturday evening. I’m at home alone, warm and cozy on the sofa. I’m preparing to watch a movie - the sort of movie that my husband would absolutely loath, so I’m making the most of the isolation. Life is pretty great right now.
And that’s when I hear it call for me.
Tempting me into it’s lair. Enticing me with promises of joy encased in a plastic vessel. Luring me in with visions of pure delight.
That’s right. It’s the Curry Monster.
This is a beast with a loud voice. It nags at me to give in to its commands and order that Chicken Tikka Masala with Peshwari Naan. Maybe some Saag Paneer on the side. It tells me that everything will be OK - I deserve this, I’ve been so good all week, why shouldn’t I treat myself?
And that damned takeaway down the street reinforces its message, with a ‘Meal for One’ for just £12.95. What fantastic value - how can I say no?
But I do say no. Because there are greater forces at work within me. Forces that stabilise my motivation in times of weakness and bolster my resolve when temptation knocks.
And it’s all because of one little word.
Have you ever thought about the reason you want to lose weight, or maintain the weight you are right now?
It’s not something I really considered for a long time. I thought it was obvious, right? I wanted to look good. I wanted people to think of me as slim and attractive. I wanted to be able to fit into the type of clothes I saw all the skinny girls wear.
But I was missing a trick, and it caused me to fail time and time again.
I had failed to establish my ‘Why’.
Not how I wanted other people to see me. But how I wanted to see myself.
A person’s ‘Why’ is their deep seated, unshakeable reason for wanting to achieve a goal. ‘Why’ gives us power when times get tough. ‘Why’ gives us motivation when our willpower reserves have run dry. ‘Why’ gives us direction when we are lost.
When you have a ‘Why’, you have the ability to say no to whatever your equivalent of the Curry Monster is, because there are more important things in your life than momentary, fleeting pleasure.
I discovered my ‘Why’ around the time that I’d decided I would never go on a diet ever again. It took some serious soul searching, but eventually I realised just how simple it was.
I was determined to maintain a healthy weight so that I could be free.
Free to do all the things I wanted to do. Free to wear the clothes I wanted to wear. Free to take on new challenges.
Freedom is a value that I hold in the highest regard, and yet I found myself trapped within my own body.
When I was overweight, I was unwell, I was unfit and I was self conscious. I couldn’t do half the things I wanted to, either through lack of fitness or through shame. I was determined to change all that - and I did.
Here’s a picture I took at the top of the Tab Kak Hang Nak nature trail in Krabi, Thailand, just 4 months after I’d discovered my ‘Why’. I’d just completed a 2 hour trek through a tropical rainforest in blistering heat to reach the summit of this vast hill, 500 meters above sea level. I would never have had the confidence or physical ability required to achieve this feat in the past.
I was finally free, because I’d discovered my ‘Why’. It changed my whole approach to life and to my weight.
So why not have a go at creating your own ‘Why’ statement?
Here are a few tips to help you on your way:
- Your ‘Why’ is not your ‘What’ or ‘How’ - it doesn’t come with instructions
- Your ‘Why’ can be about others, but is not for others
- Your ‘Why’ is a product of your inner values and beliefs
- Your ‘Why’ should be understandable without further explanation
If we all stopped to think about why we do what we do more often, our internal world would be a much more fulfilling place to be. Striving to please other people is not a sustainable strategy - we need to find a reason to grow that is for us and us alone.
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